Today aku baru ingat aku tak bayaq lagi duit Lisaku…huhu
die laaaaaa……
n noticed bahawasanya if tolak duit Lisaku, duit loan ASB, & duit Bank Islam, maka dgn ini aku mendeclare aku hanya tinggal RM105.00 sahaja dlm maybankku
and it is just 30 Nov!!! A Whole month to go dgn RM100?????
WTF?? WTH??? GFY!!!!!!!!!!
Jalan kaki la pi ghejaaaaaa….Kota Dmnsara to Subang Jaya okkayy!!!
Petikla daun tepi jalan makan!!!!
~sob
~sob
refer kat bwh je la ye :bawah nie
Aku takde mood nak continue cite aritu…esok2la yek..
today very the bz…
and aku takde mood…aku mencik!!!!
aku nak balik dah
aku mencik!!!!!
mencikkkk!!!!
pahaaamm taakkk u jerk???
Was chatting to a dear fren earlier, she was telling me all about her marriage life & what she’s experiencing rite now…
She’s my age & juz got married for abt 4 months now…I was there with her, holding her, as her wedding day will always be the mark that the day her beloved father died…it was such a sad sad day. She’s the 1st in her family & she got 6 more siblings..She’s the one with the career & all..She now has a husband which she very much love & had hoped that he would be there all the way, thru ups & down, till the skies are gray….
He was..up till they were married.
Since she’s the 1st one, naturally she felt that now it’s her responsibility to look after her mom & her brothers & sisters. Since they cant all depend on their mom’s salary alone (lucky she’s still working), she’s been trying to fulfill her siblings needs,as not to burden her mom so much, while maintaining duty as wife to her husband.
Her husband.Yeah I know him..looked up at him once but now no more.I looked up so high bcoz I saw how had he helped the family during all the haywire, all the dazed confusion when the master of the family went away so quietly, without any notice. How he felt responsible to his wife family & finally he got a whole family to him ( as he wasnt really had one before).
1 Month down the road. They started to quarrel, which is quite normal for newlyweds..well, adjusting period.
2 Months down the road. Wife’s brother came to stay with them in hope to find a job here, which definitely pay better then their hometown’s companies, in order to help the family. They are not poor but harta nie kalo mkn mmg habih, sapa kata duit tak abih?? Tu NGOK namanya.
3 Months down the road. Fasting month. Instaed becoming better, they hv gone worse. Only this time she started to tell me all this. Kesian die. You know, they were fighting every nite. My fren has been crying everyday. I know it’s not rite for me to blurb all this, but i couldnt help to share this out. Her husband dah start restrict her & controlling her like mad. The hubby keeps on blaming her bro what had happened between them. Her bro? is he krasy or what? Her bro has not even do anything as in to take control of the house hold. Dia juz tumpang jap kat umah KAKAK dia, utk carik keja sbb dia br konvo. Kat sapa lagi dia nak pi kalo bukan kakak dia SENDIRI. So many things had happened between them. The hubby tak beli mkn n tak ajak pon my fren to go out to buy anything for berbuka puasa tau..because dia takmo apa dia beli tu adik ipar dia mkn. gila saiko.
to be continued…..
(ehehe..jgnla marre..aku nak balik dah)
28 Feb 2006- sambungan…
haluuu…..sori la of not being able to continue earlier…byk keja la pulak, dgn training lagi….
anyhooos, the story turns out to be longer that what I thot of jotting down here..
Still on 3 Months down the road, the hubby memula ok when the bro use his motorbike to go carik keja tetapi tetiba perasaan hasad dengki menerjah dihatinya..he actually took the motorbike key to work when he was driving the car. Hence, making the bro cant go out at all…after a while, he started to rode the motorbike to work & bwk kunci keta oso…When his wife confronted, he said he want to save money..like DUHH!!
They were still quarrelling every single nite, & the bro balik kg before Raya bikos he heard they were fighting eventho he actually dunno what the real reason was.
4 Months down the road,after Raya, the bro came back to stay with them as he got an offer from a company not far from where the sis stayed, but he has to go on a 6 months training. By that, he will only receive allowance instead of salary till he start officially working with that co.
Dah mintak kebenaran n everything, so everything back to normal..but not for long…sigh….
Start balik…the same stooopid reasoning that the hubby gave..but this time he’s a little bit daring. He asked her when is he bro going to pindah & even called the MIL(Mother In Law) to asked her when will her son move out..Isnt that so cruel?? Her mom called her after numerous calls from her daughter’s hubby & she cried to my fren. How shd my fren react to that??
As usual, my fren tried to talk & discuss abt it with her hubby, but MAN BEING MAN, instead of focusing on the real issue between them (& and also admitting his insecurities & he’s at fault too), he just start pointing at the brother again. Mamat tu buat apa pon dak. He told her he’s going to halau her bro out of the house..the poor lady cried & cried. However this time with a stand, if her hubby halau her bro, she will step out too. She even begged him not to do this to her. But I guess, it’s juz MAN’s EGO..bloating up when his wife did that.
He said the he felt like a kuli in the house, but the real fact, he expect the bro to become a kuli. He said the bro tak penah angkat kain, tak penah angkat pinggan, tak penah lipat kain..cuba teka sape nyer yg dia tak buat tu??? It’s the hubby’s one lah…the hubby nak the bro basuh pinggan yg the hubby pakai, wash the clothes yg the hubby pakai n lipat kain bj yg the hubby pakai.WTF?? The bro tak penah even suh his own sis does all that to him!
Nite after nite. The wife tried her very best to hide everything from her family & everybody else. The only person who knows about is ME. She didnt even tell her mom, trying to maintain a good image of her hubby to everybody ( That’s what a person in love would do kan)..but of coz she gotta tell sumone, otherwise she’d gone krasy by now…
He wasnt like this before kawen tau.I know.He was the sweetest man to her. He provided such support/security/encouragement, but I guess it was all juz disguising. He doesnt even allow her to go balik kg at all.
You know,at one point the wife asked the hubby, by doing all this, by halau-ing her bro, what would he get out of it.you know what he answered?
Kepuasan. ( Eventho it’s costing you your wife??)
Kepuasan & Kebebasan.
When she was telling me all this, I couldnt help myself & told her, if he wanted kebebasan, he shouldnt be married in the first place.
She told that what he said…….. "Saya menyesal kawen dgn awak."
At this point the wife was damn broken to the bone, to the very core of her soul. And me myself was at the brink of crying, but I held up bikos I need to support her innit ( & bikos I was in my office while chatting to her).
How could a man say that to a wife that he so dearly love???
But this fren of mine is definitely not a stoopid waan lah…she definitely got her stand up again n told him " Kalau saya tau macamnie, saya pun taknak kawen dgn awak." Well, org majuk nye ckp kan.
I cant condemn her hubby to her bikos I know how much she love him…more than anything in this world..
The hubby told her he will tinggal her :
Wife: i x tahu nk buat aper dh skrg ni ryzza
Wife:dh byk hari i nangis…i merayu kt dia jgn buat camni kt family i
Me: die ckp pe pas tu?
Wife: dia x ckp pa pe
Wife: at last dia nk tinggal kn i kt umah tu…suh i jaga adik2 i & family i…dia nk pindah g umah baru tu
Me: ha?
Me: bia betul si k** nie
Wife: i ckp la kt dier…i x mampu nk buat sumer tu sowang…i perlu kn sokongan dr dia
Me: mase nak kawen pun die dah tau hal nie sume..family u sume mmg rapat2
Wife: i dh ckp kt dier centu…i lebih sanggup hilang dier dr family i
Me: pastu die ckp pe?
Wife: i ckp…x pe la i terima je aper keputusan dier…kalo tu yg dia pk terbaik utk dia…buat je la
Wife: dia kata…dia nk tinggal i utk i settle kn urusan family i…leh jaga adik2 i…pastu dh settle nti…blk la kt dia
Wife: i ckp kt dier…once dia dh tinggal i…i dh tak kn g merayu utk blk kt dier…dia akn hilang i forever
Me: hmm..
Me: betulla
Me: family bukannye kite leh buang selama2nya…sentiasa dgn kite…mane leh konon settlekan issue sekejap je
Wife: betul…i dh explain kt dier centu
Wife: kalo dia nk ilang i…x pe la, terus kn dgn keputusan dier tuh
Me: nie smlm ke gado?
Wife: i mintak utk dia saba kejap je….adik i nk pindah & cari umah sewa lain, bukan senang nk carik umah sewa
Wife: dah byk ari ryzza….
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Wife: i ckp la kt dier…family dier ngan family i lain…diorg berlainan agama
Wife: and family dia dok area cni jer….benda2 tu dia kena pk jgk
Me: a’ah
Me: kawen kena la bertolak ansur
Wife: betul…i ckp dia dh x blh cam dulu…skrg dia kena berubah
Me: betul
Wife: mmg sejarah idup dia x sama ngan org lain…tp dia blh berubah kalo dia nk
Me: betul…make it better
Wife: unless dia sendiri yg tanak berubah
Wife: sblm kawen lg die dah tau betapa penting family dlm idup u, jgnla take that away
Wife: betul ryzza…tp x senang utk buat dia paham psl sumer2 ni ryzza
Me: sedey jugak..before kawen dulu nmpk die ok dgn sume nie, dah kawen lain lak jadinye
Wife: i x sangka dia jenis org yg centu
Wife:smlm i ckp kt dier…dia ni sbnr nya selfish…pk utk diri & kepentingan dier je
Wife: dia x penah pk i cam mn…byk benda yg i kena pk dr dia
Wife: byk benda yg i kena pk lepas my dad x de…sumer benda i kena pk & sumer benda dh berubah skrg
Me: betul..tmbh u yg sulung
Me: ape die kate?
Wife: tp dia x penah paham tu sumer…kalo dia paham, dia x buat i cenni….dia akn sokong i…batu i
Wife: bukan tambah masalah
Me: die taleh nak bg moral support sbb die asik pikir diri die
Wife: betul ryzza
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Wife: oh…i dh nk blk
Me: take care
Me: i doa u kuat utk hadapi mlm nie
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That was early last week. & guess what had happened now? The wife is at my house. The hubby halau her keluar rumah last Sunday nite. And it all started quite innocently. The went out in the morning to Nilai to buy curtains for their new house and all, hepi2…tp dah balik jadi lain pulak.
Dah dekat mlm, the wife dok lipat kain & masukkan kain tu dlm beg baju sbb dorg takde almari besar, so nak jage la kain dah basuh sume. The hubby saw that & terus cakap " Hah! Awak nak pegi mane pulak dah?" Salah sangka kan?
The wife got sakit hati & answered dlm nada yg sgt sedih, " Biarlah saya nak pegi mane pun.."
The hubby terus cakap " Keluarlah! Keluarlah pade umah nie, dgn adik awak sekali!" The hubby got so angry & tetiba nak pegi pukul the bro sbb dia kate nak ajar the bro. Korang yg bace nie sume berpelajaran kan? korang dpt ke tgk kat mane kene mengenanya dgn si bro tu? takde kan???? the bro takde kat rumah pon for goodness sake.
dok mengamuk nak pi pukul adik my fren tu, the hubby hit her. On the face. On her hand. (Tgn die berbekas tau sbb kulit dia sgt sensitif, seb baik kat muke tak…kalo tak cane die nak gi keje).
What monster of a man who’d do that to his wife, while perfectly knowing that his wife might be pregnant?
The wife quickly called her bro not to come up to the house..oh I forgot to tell, the bro went out to solat kat masjid.Luckily.Kalo tak, dah jadi drama masuk paper. seorang lelaki telah dipukul oleh abang iparnya di atas tiada sebab langsung yg berkaitan. abang iparnya hanya berfikiran seperti kanak-kanak apabila tidak tahu utk menyelesaikan masalah rumahtangganya.
So the wife bwk turun all her bro’s brg & baju down & quickly asked her bro to go sumwhere.Ternganga the bro.Actually the bro dah nak pindah dah this week, you know.
I think this is when the wife texted me to ask whether can I pick her up. Of coz la I can dearie.Got out from the house & went to her house, but it took me quite a while to reach her place. Brought her home. Her eyes was swollen. How do you handle this situation? I tak la pulak kol the hubby & give him a piece of my mind kan, trying not to interfere but more to become the supportive fren.after reaching my place, she texted her hubby telling where she was, the hubby didnt reply at all.
She didnt eat for 2 days.
Today, hubby called & asked her to come back, while crying.
She will go back tonite.
I dunno what’s gonna happen next but I’ll be there for her.
Is this what happen when u r married? Am I gonna face this as well? This is just 4 months down the road..
I have quite the same characteristic as her, probably because we are the eldest in the family & has got a sense of responsibilty towards our family. I can say we are strong willed people, still have our insecurities eventho we camouflage it very well.
But by being that, adakah ia sebenarnya satu perkara yg tidak baik?
Once ppl start pushing us away, we will go eventually.
I’m afraid of that. I can be exactly that. Even Jesse pun sama kan Jesse?
Sorry…I couldnt help to include my own story here..but I’ll save it for another "me, me, me" session..
during lunch today, I went to jln2 at the shopping mall next to my office building..well, saja nak jln2 sbb buhsan..dah masuk dlm tu dan setelah disembur dgn minyak wangi oleh penjual2 perfume itu, tetiba aku teringat nak pi check out this one beauty centre/spa which is located inside the mall itself…sbb pi sorg2 kan, so aku tidakla berasa malu utk tanya apa2 kepada org itu, dan juga types of treatment, what they do & whatnot lah…
the lady who owns it is actually a Japanese. what really impressed me abt this lady is the fact that she can actually talk in Malay, with our slang, talk in English, with our slang jugak, talk in cantonese, with our slang, & in Hokkien, with our slang of coz! & definitely she can still speak in her mother’s tongue…she’s quite pretty & sharp for her age…..she actually took courses to learn all this languages since she wants to stay & open a business im Malaysia….
anyways…..aku yg bijaksana nie pon telah la berenti dan bersembang2 dgnnya, asking all the questions abt their products, practises & treatments. I dunno why, all others yg kat situ tak pulak menarik minat utk aku berenti…after much talking, and explaining, she also did a demo on me ( tetggl lak…masa aku sampai tu, dia siap bg aku Japanese tea berperisa plum…nice!)…I was hooked I tell you…definitely start moving towards the price la kan…ui..bole tahan die nie…but since aku dah tergoda, aku paid for a trial one..which I dont have a budget for!! huhu!
this place it seems…tempat org kaya2, mak2 datin pi rupanya huhu…..while I was there, all these ppl yg dtg haha no wonder la the price kan….but then, if all these ppl yg dtg, they shd be good innit??
oh why la why aku nak jugak kena tertarik dgn yg mahai2 nie haaa…yg memurah kan byk…daaakkk dia nak yg mahai jugak! nak pi facial pun dia sedap tmpt yg kena byr mahai…..
tapi adakah salah jika aku suka kepada ini semua haaa?? aku tidak menggunakan duit sesiapa pun utk semua ini, hanya duit ku juaa….adakah salah utk mempunyai minat terhadap the best in life?? huhu
now dudukla mkn roti ban for lunch. Padan Muka!
~sigh~
There’s only 1 thing I wanna say :
I MISS my LabiLabi so much.
I WISH he would come back to me.
I WISH he could love me back like he used to.
I MISS the LabiLabi I felt in love with.
The one who listens & understand & needed me so much
I REALLY MISS HIM.
I WISH he could understand all this.
email from Min - the Jasmine Woman….
email 1:
greetings fabulous girls,
marilah ke KK (kota kinabalu)!!
below are the dates where the fare is RM189.98 only. rs mcm mustahil ja kalau ada yg kata xdk duit kn. tu psl bitau awal2. kalau sampe thn dpn nk kumpul duit tambang pun x dpt, i no komen la. tp apa2 pun mari pergi beramai ramai.
lagi ramai, lagi jimat cost, lagi sronok. so pls take a look at the dates below. hopefully everyone is free and boleh amek cuti. 2 hari ja pun. rabu mlm, after work,we can all go. then sabtu mlm fly back here so dat we can rest on sunday and get back to work on monday.
sounds gud kn? so tunggu apa lagi. mari~! kalau ada apa2 pertanyaan, jgn malu2 nk tanya ya.
btw, kena confirm cpt sbb buking period dh nk abis. n also takut ttiba teket naik harga. once dh finalize bila nk p suma2. masing2 b responsible n trus buking.
ok girls? hope 2 hear from u soon!
sy yg sgt semangat nk berjln2,
jasmine women 
email 2:
greetings hot mamas (heheheh),
we have confirmations at last! yg diam tu i assume ur not interested la ye anyway, 6 young, sexy and lovely (YSL) ladies (jasmine women, jesreen,jesneeta, jas, sarah n isma) have confirmed their availibility in february. so girls, february it is!! we are going to fly to KK on the 7th Feb ‘07 (wed) at 9.15 pm and flying back to KL on the 10th Feb ‘ 07 (sat) at 9.25 .
flight bookings will be handled by jesreen and jas. take note girls, ini adlh task yg sgt penting tau. anything regarding this matter, deal with these 2 hot mamas. hotel bookings will be done later since the most important thing is the ticket booking/itinerary will be discussed later so dat we can maximize the numbers of fun activities to do while we r there. (semangat nya, siap ada itinerary. so there. we hv pretty much finalized the number of ppl gng and the dates. hope all is clear.
if there’s any questions, pls do not hesitate to ask. wud be more than glad to answer u pretty ladies.
oh ya, just in case u were wondering who died n made me queen, the answer is NO ONE. sy mmg gila kuasa
sy yg bes,
jasmine women
Well…it’s confirm now…we are all going… all hail to the queeen *tunduk*
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so now…my travelling plans :
Dec - Bali
Feb - KK
March - Redang
Koyak rabak la poket aku …hahahaha
smlm I came back from work quite early - 6.30pm…balik umah with all intention to clean the house & all for my small mkn2 nnt. Sampai umah, watched Malcolm In The Middle…suddenly it started to rain heavily, complete with petir..
FYI, petir at my housing area is the very menakutkan…eventho I stayed only on the 3rd floor but being the few aptmt at my place, agak le scary jugak bcoz u can see panahannye dr langit sampai ke tanah..
me = org yg takut dok sorg dlm umah, pd mlm hari yg ujan lebat2 dgn petir2 nya skali…
aku sgt takut ok…so send an SMS to a person hoping to be saved…no reply. Aku makin takut dan sedih…Astro dah start buat hal..biasa lah kalo ujan…sgt lah lonely pd ketika itu, so what a should an independant, who-lived-alone-but- so-scared girl do?
Go to a place with lotsa people! A place you cant really hear all the dentuman kilat&petir. I decided am gonna go watch movie at Cineleisure…eventho going alone at least I got the whole cinema utk menemanikuu…hahaha pathetic.aku tau.
…I got up n went to bathroom….dah seronok melakukan process penyahtinjaan tu (walaupun masih lg petir berdentum kat luar tu), tetiba my eyes couldnt see anymore!! What happened?? My God! umah aku gelap gelita! aku dlm toilet lak tu…for ur info, I couldnt see in the dark akceli, for most ppl, it’ll take a few seconds for them to see again but for me, agak lama before I can get back my orientation tu…dah meraba2 aku dlm kegelapan…Masa tu series nak nangih…huhu…why oh why?
Then I remembered I placed my henfon in front of the toilet door (langkah keselamatan la konon, in case anything happen aku kena call polis)…seb baik la fon aku bukan fon baling anjing tu hehehe sbb fon aku ada torchlight..YAY!! Kudos to Sony Ericsson dan org yg telah mereka lampu pada henfon! I lep yu!!
So kuar to the front, guna torchlight tu utk suluh mana kusi n panjat n bukak fuse box tu…takut gila kut tersambar petir kat situ mati kering la aku kena karen…n nobody will know sampai hosmet aku balik end of the week…wat a horrible thot!
so electricity went backed on dan aku berkobar2 terus mandi cecepat..sekali dah siap pakai my black pants n dah usung my wayang jaket & henbeg, I glanced at the tv, alaaaaaa…One Tree Hill la pulak, pehtu Judging Amy….
Jes balik sat bcos the rain is too heavy, so tak la lonely sgt masa tgk tv tu..then she went back to KL..
It took an hour & half for sumone to reply my SMS and only at 11pm did sumone called me…
Boring sial idup aku!
THEREFORE I DECLARE, AS NOW ON, I AM GONNA LIVE MY LIFE AS IT WAS BEFORE, WHEN NOBODY CARES, WHEN I WAS INDEPENDANT, WHEN I DID NOT NEED TO TELL ANYBODY WHAT & WHERE & WITH WHOM, WHEN I MADE MY OWN DECISIONS WITHOUT NEEDING TO CARE WHAT PEOPLE FEEL, AS PEOPLE DID NOT GIVE A SHIT ON WHAT I DO OR HOW I FEEL.
err…I fell asleep with the same outfit I was wearing kekonon nak pi tgk wayang tu complete with my jaket n henbag.
dan…proses penyahtinjaan is the best thing in life other than food & sleep (& perhaps sex for sum people)…
"Tai tai is a term used in Chinese circles, which translates in its strictest sense as ’supreme wife’ where a man is wealthy enough (Tai-pan) to have several wives. The term implies respect but it is no longer strictly interpreted. It now applies to a wealthy man’s wife who does not need to work for money, a privileged lady of means.
To qualify as a Tai tai, one must have lots of leisure time, lots of money and lots of gossip to exchange."
waaahhh..I Like!! kekeke
"A tai-pan (大班) was an influential foreign businessman doing business in China or Hong Kong in the 19th century. The Chinese term is now used in a more general sense for business executives of any origin. The Chinese term literally means big class which is equivalent to the English term big shot.
The name was commonly used to refer to high-powered business executives and entrepreneurs in Hong Kong when it was under British control, referring to those in charge of major companies."
OOOOooohhhhhhhHHHHHH !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
I seriously CANT wait !!
Another month to go!
I’ve even done the "to buy list"
Need to do " what to bring list" - includes bikini!!! (…aku takde bikini lagi huhu)
hopefully aku tak hitam & sunburn huhu!! better get that max SPF banana boat !!
Excitednyaaaaaaaaa……..eventho lama lagi, hopefully nothing bad that can cancel my trip wont HAPPEN! I need this vacation, y’all!!!
