Guys, I want u to read ->especially the guys..I believe the girls would definitely agree with this excerpt:
I have a friend, let’s call her Fabulous. She used to be married, just like me, to an ordinary man who was too ordinary for her ambitions. She also almost married another man, who was rich, well-known in our society and had a great career thanks to what else but a government contract or two.
Then, she found out that his marriage proposal did not include telling his then current wife about her. And she promptly dumped him. In her books, Number Two was okay, but it had to be official.
After all, she isn’t even in her mid-thirties and has a successful career. She didn’t need to depend on someone else to buy her expensive vacations or shoes, or even her apartment. She is attractive, smart and worldly, with a network of close friends that spans the better part of the globe.
This year, she has been in a long-distance relationship with an older man in his fifties who resides in another country and is CEO of several multi-national corporations. According to him, until he met her, his former wife thought he had ED.
I say his former wife because they live five minutes away from each other on account of their children, who reside with him. But he hasn’t quite divorced her yet, apparently because of the impact it would have on his assets.
About three weeks ago, Fabulous had had enough. She had the all-dreaded "Talk" with him about their possible future. Or even if they had one. All she wanted to know from him was where this whole affair was going, and if it would ever go anywhere. Not today, not tomorrow or even next month, but ever.
He kept quiet.
She kept loving him.
Two weeks ago, she had a personal crisis.
He kept quiet until the last minute. Meanwhile, her friends, men and women alike, rallied round her, helping her do all the necessary things and take the extra-careful precautions to ensure she remained unharmed, body and mind.
Last weekend, she was in Bali and narrowly missed the bombs by 24 hours or 35 minutes, depending on which location you pick.
Last weekend, he left together with children and family, to spend a week at a spa.
When the bombs hit, they exchanges SMS-es.
This past week, she suddenly opened her eyes and said she could not go on. He SMS-es her back to say he agreed.
But he didn’t call.
Not once, to say "I’m sorry, can we be friends?"
Or even to return her request to talk things over for closure.
When she asked him again, he said "I will call you tomorrow."
Needless to say, she was livid.
When a woman who has spent the good part of loving a man blindly begins to see again, her vision is as sharp as a knife. When a woman who has been deaf to anything else but a man’s apparent love for her starts to hear again, she can pick up white noise a continent away.
When a woman stops loving a man, she keeps quiet. She stops fighting back. She doesn’t nag. She doesn’t even try to persuade you after a first attempt.
She just keeps quiet.
And she sends the ring you gave her to your wife/ex-wife, with a note to say "You should know what your husband has been up to."
Or she sends your wife an e-mail telling the latter all about her husband’s conduct on his business trips.
Or, she sends your wife a package filled with all the little things that will matter - a sexy piece of lingerie here, receipts from dinners at restaurants the wife hasn’t been to in years, a photo of the husband with a light in his eyes the wife no longer knows she misses, or the knowledge that the wife’s husband is not impotent.
Some may say it is unjust, that the innocent wife becomes collateral damage. But perhaps it is poetic justice. At least, I say, the wife now knows what cloth her husband is really cut from.
And my Fabulous friend, can now move back into the world of technicolour.
The lesson in the story is this - if you are a man who loves a woman, beware when she keeps silent. Because then, she has awakened to the person you truly are.
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